Archive for November, 2008

So far, I’ve contributed to the retail economy $9.65, by buying two packs of Christmas cards. But, I may spend much more before this weekend is over.

Okay, here’s my dilemma: should I get something that I want but do not need?

Namely, should I buy the Calvin Klein pillows and down alternative comforter for $112, including taxes & shipping? I think I’d be getting a really good deal, and the reviews have been great, and I have been wanting a new comforter for a while now.

But I don’t need new pillows or a new comforter. But I want them. It wouldn’t be too self-indulgent to get them, would it?

Maybe I will wait until Sunday to decide.

Maybe this can be my Christmas present to myself?

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After I came home, I got a bill from my doctor’s. My eyes immediately turned to the $225 figure – and I mentally had a “What?!” moment.

On a closer look, I realized that all but $8.81 of the amount is paid for by insurance, so my responsibility is for less than $10. That made me feel much better. It also reinforced the fact how important health insurance is, and how fortunate I am to have quality, affordable health insurance.

That’s why I include a line item in my restructuring (aka “laid off”) budget for private health insurance. Even if it’s only catastrophic coverage, I am far too chicken to play chicken with my health. I have family members who work in the medical field, so I’ve heard about the ordeal that falls on people with inadequate, or no, insurance.

Mom told me that staying healthy is the most important factor to achieving and maintaining prosperity in America. The more I think about it, the truer I think it is.

I worry about health insurance a lot – for people that I love who aren’t insured, for the future of the health care system in America, for the growing Medicare and Medical liabilities, and for my parents’ health insurance / long-term care insurance needs.

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Christmas shopping

Many people worry about gift-giving during Christmas time, but I never do. My entire extended family is pretty small, and they all live outside of my city, and many live outside of the country. My immediate family is not very big on the whole holiday celebration (I think we’ve stopped having a Christmas tree after I turned 13 or 14).

As for friends, I usually only send Christmas cards – there hasn’t been a tradition of gift-giving among us (except for Secret Santa during college). Even for my birthdays / Christmas, I’ve received cash as opposed to gifts from my parents.

So Christmas for me is usually fairly low-key in terms of gifting. I usually buy 3-4 gifts: something for CB, something for his mom (usually a Starbucks card), something for my parents (maybe some movie tickets so they can finally go on a “date”), and… maybe something for my aunt. But really, that’s it. Christmas shopping rarely costs me more than $200-$300. Actually, I don’t think it ever has.

It’s nice not stressing about buying gifts for the holidays.

How much do you usually spend for the holidays? And do you ever stress about buying the perfect gift for a loved one?

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There are so many fantastic things on sale right now. I see J. Crew outfits on sale for 50%-60% off, I see Mexican and Carribean cruises marked to less than $80/day, I see restaurants with great fixed price menus. Disney World is having a sale where you get 3 free days when you purchase 4 days. In short, right now is a really good time to consume.

But, alas, I feel so uncomfortable handling large cash outlays right now, given Dow’s recent performance (7,500?!?!) and the general air of gloominess about the economy (newest villan: deflation). So all these great deals are happening all around us, but I, like many consumers, are too worried to take advantage of them. Oh, the irony.

Also, I’ve been seriously considering moving back home if I were to be laid off. As far as I can tell, I’m okay on that front, but in this economy I’m not assuming anything.

Before, I had said that I’d want to stick it out for as long as possible before I move home. But after hearing all these reports of people job-hunting for months on end, I think the more prudent action would be to cut my costs as dramatically as possible, as soon as possible. (If I move home, my monthly costs would drop to $700-$800). So my plan has changed. Instead of waiting ’til I’m at 6 months without a job before I move home, I’ll probably shorten the time to two months. Let’s hope I won’t have to actually put my plan into action.

P.S. I just re-read my post, and I realize how lucky I am, even in the midst of this economic uncertainty. I am lucky that I am young and well-educated. I am lucky that my jobs enabled me to save a relatively robust emergency fund. I am lucky that I have parents who live nearby. I am lucky that I don’t have a mortgage or children. I am lucky that the only person I have to take care of, right now, is me (and even then I will have the support of family if I need it).

My opportunity cost is so low compared to what it would be at any point later in my life. If I’ve got to face the “biggest financial crisis since the Great Depression”, this might be the best time for me to face it.

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I have this hair stylist, “Don”, that I love. My hair gets the most compliments whenever he does it. Unfortunately, he is an hour’s drive away and charges $50/haircut. Add in the tip, and I’m at $60. I had planned to go to Don this month, but finally decided not to.

Part of the reason was the drive, but part of the reason is the feeling that it’s no longer prudent to spend $60 on a haircut. So I went to a less expensive place that cost $20 including tip. The haircut turned out well and I’m happy with it, but there is a difference between the $60 cut and the $20 cut (as there should be). So, I guess I’m just one incidence of the phenomenon illustrated by these NPR stories about the beauty industry and the downturn.

There are also signs of the slowdown every where I went:

  • At salon I went to, the owner said traffic was very slow. “It’s a recession, they just don’t want to say it publicly,” she insisted.
  • CB and I went to a casual sit-down restaurant (I won a $30 gift card in a raffle), and usually we’d have to wait for 30-40 minutes at that location. But we were seated right away.
  • A friend who works at McDonald’s said that more people are, er, displeased that Micky D’s is charging 25 cents for extra condiments and sauces. Apparently, one customer made his displeasure known by chucking his milkshake at the drive-through window.
  • I know or know of several people who have been laid off from positions in consulting, finance, wealth management, media, and accounting. In many cases, the entire department was eliminated.

What are some signs of the downturn that you have witnessed? Did you trade down to a more inexpensive salon / beauty treatments because of the economy?

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On the men in my life

This weekend was a weekend of rebuilding and strengthening relationships with the men in my life (and churning out files for work calls on Saturday and Sunday, but that make a much less interesting post).


In 3 months I’ll have reached the 6th year of my relationship with CB, whom I met in high school. We’re both college graduates now, and still going. We’ve had big ups and downs, because of immaturity, insecurity, physical distance, and just plain ol’ growing-up on both sides. Sometimes, looking back, and looking at the seventeen-year-olds I know, I think it’s a minor miracle that we’ve made it this far when we started so young.

I’ve learned a lot about myself through the process. I’ve learned that perfection does not belong to man, nor woman, though that has been harder for me to accept. 😉  I’m learning how to fight fair, and how to let go of the little hurts, annoyances and misunderstandings so they don’t poison the important stuff. I have learned am still learning that love is as much a verb as it is a noun.


This weekend I also reached out to Dad, with whom I’ve had a strained relationship in high school and a distant one in college. We never really fought after I left for college, but that’s because we stopped talking about anything beyond the most basic of niceties.

Now that I’ve finally had some (8 years worth!) of distance between us, I can move beyond the hurt that I felt as a teenager, realize that all relationships have faults, and see that at the end of the day, he’s still the only father I’ve got. Daddy’s little girl? Maybe not quite, but it’s never too late to try to build something new and better.


God is referred to as “He” in the Bible, but I think just as He is beyond human, he is also beyond human gender categorization (and I’ve taken a class called “Divine Feminine” in college). I am still working on building a spiritual life, and cultivating a relationship with something greater than myself and my own little world. It’s a work in progress.

I write a personal journal, and I tell God that I am pro-choice and I believe in evolution, and I ask Him why can’t we stop killing in His name, and why are there wars and accidents and crimes and horrible genetic diseases. I don’t have the answers, but I pray to Him nonetheless. A little bit of faith? That must be it.

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Today is pay day. Every day the economy is being pummeled, so I’m not taking even one pay day for granted. The most important thing is still paying myself first.

And, this pay day is extra special because I have officially crossed the $23,500 mark on my Freedom Fund!

So now, I’m setting a s-t-r-e-c-h goal for myself before the end of 2008:

  • New goal: $27,000
  • Current balance: ~$23,520
  • Amount needed: ~$3,470

It’ll be tight, but with aggressive savings from the 3 paychecks I have left and some ad income, I should be able to hit my stretch goal (baring any emergencies). This means an inexpensive Christmas, continuing my clothing hiatus, and forgoing a trip to Vegas that I had been seriously considering. $27,000 would fund 15 months of living expenses.

12/31 Update: I made it! $27,000 in my Freedom Fund (emergency cash).

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