I grew up in a culture (and a family) where the love-yourself -I’m-fabulous -rah-rah-go-me concept is neither practiced nor encouraged. In many ways that’s good. For one, I grew up to be reasonably disciplined and hard-working.
I’ve also grown up learning to limit my “downside”. Examples:
1. I’m 23, but I have 15% of my retirement portfolio in bonds even when financial websites hawk the 100% stock allocation for a young investor such as myself. Why? I’m limiting my downside.
2. I love writing, but I probably won’t make the leap to be a professional writer, why? Because I’m limiting my downside. I also love health insurance and 401(k)s.
3. I worked 110+ hours (I counted) the week before, during, and after my interviews for a new job. I had $3,000 in the cash, $15,000 more in retirement accounts, and family nearby. But I didn’t quit my job ’til I got a new one. Why? Because I wanted to limit my downside.
4. I love this man. I’ve loved him for a long time, and I have a feeling that I’ll love him for a long time to come. Later down the road, I’d be honored if he’d ask me to be his wife. But I get spooked really easily. I pick fights over little things. I get insecure. Why? Because I’m trying to limit my downside.
…It’s hard NOT to. It’s hard to get over that mentality. But I’m going to try.
So on to my living-the-upside campaign:
1. I’m going to take a couple of belly dance classes to see how I like them (inspired by Little Miss Moneybags!) My first class is on Wednesday. Hello, happy exercise endorphins!
2. I will join my alum association’s Board of Directors in several months, if all goes well. This will be the first time I’m working on a nonprofit board (but hopefully not the last) so I am very excited and eager to learn. I had a good time at my alma mater… and now it’s time to give back. Oh, I’m not going to lie – having a nonprofit board directorship on my resume? Pretty darn cool.
3. I’m planning to mentor a preteen girl once the school starts in the fall. Time to get my head out of my bubble and do something meaningful for another person.
4. And lastly, but definitely not least, I’m going to trust in the fact that I have a man who loves me. Nothing in life is guaranteed, so I’m going to take it one step at a time. I’m going to stop unconsciously sabotaging my relationship, and sometimes, it wouldn’t hurt for me to just chill out.
Go me. 😉